Adoption can be a better choice if you are facing an unplanned pregnancy. Sometimes it may feel like abortion is the only solution. You may feel abortion is a quick fix to what may feel like an overwhelming problem. Choosing adoption is not always the easiest choice but it is a choice you can feel good about. It means you were willing to put yourself and your needs aside for the good of your child. It means you choose to hand pick the life you want your child to have even when you knew you cannot provide that life.
Although abortion may seem to be the quick solution it may not be the best solution. Through the years I have talked with many women who have had an abortion and at the time they felt it was the best choice for them. Many of these women regret the decision at some point. Some women feel guilt and regret for the rest of their life after aborting. While I believe every woman should have a choice, I also know first-hand that the abortion decision can haunt a woman for the rest of her life.
Women who have placed a baby for adoption typically say it was one of the hardest decisions they ever made but they rarely regret it. They typically feel good about themselves for making such a selfless choice and they rarely feel guilt.
As you consider the options available to you we are here to help if you would like to make an adoption plan. We will make sure you are cared for during your pregnancy.
Whatever you choose I hope you find the strength and support you need.
Most women who are pregnant and considering adoption have no knowledge or information about the realities of adoption. Often the word adoption can bring up an image of something that is negative.
Unless you have been in this situation before you may not have accurate information about how adoption works and what adoption is today.
Many women that we talk to are surprised to learn that adoption in today’s world adoption can be a quite positive experience for everyone involved. Adoption has changed, gone are the days where the pregnant woman had very little control over the placement of her baby.
Choosing adoption today means you can have many choices regarding how the adoption will work. You will be able to pick the family that you want to adopt your baby. You can meet with them and get to know them prior to the birth and you can choose to have ongoing contact after the birth. You can choose the level of contact that you feel comfortable with. Most adoptive families are happy to share ongoing pictures letters and updates with you. If you want ongoing visits there are families who would love to maintain that level of openness. You get to decide what feels right for you.
You can also receive free services which include, emotional support, free legal services, help with your pregnancy related expenses such as housing, food utilities and maternity clothes. Most every state allows a woman who has chosen adoption to receive financial assistance during her pregnancy. When you begin the adoption process you will be given guidelines on what is allowable in your state.
Hopefully this information will help you make an informed decision as you consider your choices.
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