We’re Brian & Laura, and we’re very excited that you’re considering us for adoption. We are in our mid-thirties, love children and are excited to build a family. Our favorite days are spent being active outdoors, relaxing or surfing at the beach, cooking interesting cuisine and going on adventures, and we can’t wait to share our life with a child!
We don’t begin to think that we understand how adoption feels for you, but we do want you to know that we see you as brave, and we support you in your decision. In our letter to you, we hope that you find in us two loving and caring people who long to care for and see a child flourish with us as their parents. We’d be honored if you’d consider us.
Our Life Together
In 2007, in a small town called San Luis Obispo, we met while volunteering with a church youth group. At the time Brian was studying to become an engineer and Laura was working for a non-profit.
The night we met we talked for three hours straight. Brian knew immediately that he was in love. He loved her smile, her calming voice, her keen ability to be an active listener. He knew he had met someone special. That night, he went to his MySpace and wrote: “Tonight – August 25, 2007 – I met my future wife.” Laura needed convincing, but with time it became obvious she was head over heels for Brian. Laura loved his goofiness, his drive, his laugh, and how much he cared for her.
In 2009, under the California sunshine, we tied the knot. About a year later we moved to Norway so Brian could study computer science abroad, then returned to Southern California so Laura could pursue graduate school. After hopping around southern California for a while, we now reside in beautiful Ventura.
Today, that little seedling of love has grown into a strong, trustworthy, fun-loving relationship. With many years of marriage, we have learned how to communicate during challenging times, and how to celebrate each other’s gifts and accomplishments.
So what about where we live, Ventura? Well, Ventura is a very special place to us. We live in the heart of downtown atop a hill which overlooks the ocean in a cozy Craftsman-style home (our first!) which we bought as a fixer upper. The backyard is big and has plenty of space for a young one to run around and simply be a rambunctious kid. Our little neighborhood is very tightknit: we’ve got coffee shops, farmers’ markets, running clubs, street fairs and festivals – the works. The schools are also top-notch.
On a typical night, you’ll find us making dinner, listening to classic rock on our vintage sound system, doing a sunset surf session, hanging with the fam, or simply backing our van up to the beach, opening the doors, and watching the sunset while reading a book. The TV is rarely on, but when it is, Laura’s usually watching a cooking show or an old movie.
On the weekends we like to be out and about as much as we love relaxing at home. We are an active couple and love surfing, running, hiking, camping. traveling, making and eating interesting cuisine, and exploring the California coast in our Sprinter Van are a few things we enjoy in our spare time.
We’ve been on so many adventures and cannot wait to share more of them with children of our own. In fact, we want to share our experiences so bad it hurts sometimes.
Perhaps our favorite aspect of life is spending time with our family. Laura’s family lives in Ventura and Brian’s family is just a stone’s throw away in the central valley. Our child will be surrounded by aunts, uncles, cousins, and countless friends. This support network is crucial to who we are and what we want our children to eventually be someday. As they say, it takes a village to raise a child and that’s a philosophy we subscribe to.
Infertility has been a tough road for us. Back in April of 2017, we lost our first daughter, Etta, after a traumatic stillbirth. We miss her so much and we’ve never even talked to her before.
We really want to be parents and we know in our hearts we’d be great at it. Sure, we’d stumble along the way, but we’re anxious to get back up and learn and be the best parents we can be.
Hi, I’m Laura!
As far back as I can remember, I have enjoyed helping others. Volunteering for service projects and going on mission trips was a regular part of life for me all throughout high school and college. After graduating college, I began work at a non-profit where I trained indigenous people in Africa in sanitation, hygiene, and water systems. Somewhere along the line, I realized I really enjoyed helping people with special needs and I began pursuing a career in occupational therapy. While in school I learned that I especially loved working with children! Playing with kids of all ages was so fun – I love seeing how their minds work and watching them grow and learn.
Today, I am an occupational therapist who helps people recover after an illness or disabling event. I find such joy in helping my clients regain movement and skills that will help them thrive.
But enough about work! In my free time I love to go on walks with friends, surf with Brian, do ceramics, and travel. I’m a big fan of crafting and baking – I’m always on Pinterest trying to find the next project. Crafting with children has to be one of my favorite activities. They always do something unexpected, which displays their creativity. I often dream of baking with my own child, and getting covered in flour and giggling the whole time.
In my line of work, I have seen how valuable it is for children to have a safe, fun, and loving home life. Children need to know they are loved unconditionally and be provided with unlimited opportunities to learn and find joy in the world around them. I am determined to create that home for any future child of mine.
As you already know, my name is Brian. I am a software engineer who works for Dollar Shave Club. This means I write code all day to make the interwebs work. Yeah, I am kind of a nerd, but the cool type of nerd :)
Ever since I was a child, I loved to tinker with things around the house. I would build computers, take apart electronics, help my father on construction projects around the house, and build make-shift forts using the lumber from the under-construction houses in our neighborhood.
One of my most favorite things in this world is learning and teaching. Every day I am constantly learning, and I long to be a father who teaches their children about the soft skills and the hard skills of life.
I envision myself with my child someday sitting in my workshop building and coding a robot, or in the backyard constructing a tree house, or shaping a surfboard.
I grew up in a small town in the central valley of California called Bakersfield, and it’s here that my folks instilled values in me which I hope to bestow in a child someday.
What we have to offer a child
We both come from stable, loving families and we hope to provide our future children with the same warm and supportive environment that we grew up in. Laura’s family made camping a constant part of her childhood, and that tradition will be continued with our children. He or she would get to experience waking up to the smell of redwoods and exploring the great outdoors. Brian’s family raised him to explore his different interests whether it was sports or computers. Any child of ours would be encouraged to foster their interests and gifts, whatever they might be.
Our faith in God is a central part of our lives, and is something we would pass on to future generations. We believe God calls us to love him, and love our neighbor, which is everyone no matter their backgrounds, beliefs, sexual orientation, or any other element that is often used to divide one another. We will love our children as they are, and seek to raise them as individuals that will make the world a better place.
We both have established careers, so we will also be able to provide financial security for our family. Any child we are blessed with, will have the opportunity for school activities, college, travel, and any other adventures they wish to pursue.
In closing, we want to thank you again for considering us to be your adoptive parents.
As our child is growing up, we would be open to sharing photos, letters and updates with you and want you to know how happy he or she is growing up with us. We plan to be open with our son or daughter about their adoption story and how we became a family.
If you would like to learn more about us or to arrange an initial phone call, please call Cindy (anytime) at A Loving Alternative (800) 556-5635.