We are Eric, Melissa, Axel and Anastasia. Thank you for taking the time to read our letter and consider us as a possible family for your baby. We are a happy, active, stable family of four and we all can’t wait to adopt a baby and become a family of five. Becoming parents is the best thing that has happened to us. There is nothing we want more in life than to grow our family and have another child to love and nurture.
Our Life Together
We met in college over 20 years ago at the Army-Navy football game and felt an immediate connection. The day after we met, Eric told his dad he met someone he could marry. At the time, Eric was attending the U.S. Naval Academy and Melissa was going to school in Villanova, Pennsylvania. We embarked on a long-distance romance and, although it was a challenge at times, we always found a way to make it work. After college, we continued our long-distance relationship while Eric served 8 years as a U.S. Marine.
Although we met in our early 20s, we waited to marry and became parents in our mid-30s. By this time, we had already spent most of our adult life together, became best friends and shared many wonderful experiences traveling the world and establishing our careers. We are grateful to have spent those early years seeing the world, living in many places, having unique experiences like climbing mountains in Russia and eventually marrying in Costa Rica. These years hold treasured memories for us, laid the foundation for our stable marriage and enriched us personally.
We have two biological children - a son, Axel, who is eight years old, and a daughter, Anastasia, who is two and a half. Axel is an outgoing, funny, smart and confident young boy. He likes to wrestle, play soccer, bike, swim in our pool and spend time at our home playing with friends. Axel is an amazing big brother. He has embraced this role and is extremely caring and protective of Anastasia. He regularly asks us when he will have another brother or sister. Anastasia is a spirited little girl who loves to laugh, loves to be outdoors, has a great imagination (which shows when we play “pretend”) and adores her big brother. She loves babies and will be a wonderful big sister. After Axel’s birth, we struggled to grow our family. Anastasia was born only after many years of surgeries and fertility treatments. Struggling with fertility issues gave us a new perspective and highlighted even more for us our love of children and desire to grow our family. We can’t wait to have another child.
In 2015, we finished building the house of our dreams on a 100-acre property in New England, which happens to be the property upon which Eric was raised (there is actually a road in town named after Eric’s family). It is an idyllic beautiful spot for a child to grow up on. We have several ponds full of fish and frogs with a ton of space for hiking and going on adventures, which we do regularly. The community is small and just about everyone knows each other. We have a beautiful pool and our home is always filled with family and friends.
Most of Eric’s extended family, including his two sisters and their families, still live in the area. We love spending time together having sleepovers with cousins. Melissa’s extended family visits and stays with us often, especially for holidays and birthdays. We even built an apartment over our garage for Eric’s parents to be able to stay for longer periods of time when they come “home”. They are all a big part of our lives. Being grandparents is the highlight of our parents’ lives and they spend the majority of their retirements showing that to their grandkids and children. We are grateful our family has four doting grandparents to help us guide and nurture them.
As a family, we continue to travel a great deal and believe it is a wonderful way for our children to learn about different cultures, different people and the world in which they will live and grow. We have traveled as a family to Austria, Costa Rica multiple times, Germany and across the U.S.. We have spent time hiking in Maine and the Grand Canyon, gone to Sea World and the Wild Animal Park at Disney. We are so excited to do the same with the new addition to our family.
Exercise is a big part of our lives and we strive to live healthy lifestyles as a family. All of the children in our families have attended road races in which we’ve participated and have watched the adults set an example of physicality and health in a positive and fun light. We often hike together as a family and Eric is always playing some sport outside with all of the kids. Eric coaches Axel’s lacrosse and soccer teams.
About Melissa By Eric
I am the luckiest man in the world to have Melissa as my wife. She is a beautiful person inside and out and has selflessly encouraged me to be me and supported my every endeavor. When I travel for work, I leave knowing my house and family are in wonderful, caring and loving hands. I never thought I could love her more, but after we became parents I knew even more definitively that I married the best person. Her relationship with Axel and Anastasia is special and it warms my heart to watch them together. She is a loving wife and mother whose single greatest priority and love is her family. Regardless of her day, she ensures Axel and Anastasia are well cared for in every way and still finds the time to have fun, read and put them to sleep while they lie in her arms. Melissa likes to stay active and enjoys spinning and hiking. Decorating has always been a favorite pastime for her. She is an avid reader and enjoys baking, especially when the kids serve as her helpers. She has mastered my grandmother’s famous chocolate cake and makes us the best chocolate chip cookies you’ll ever have. She and the kids just finished their first experiment with a vegetable garden and Melissa loved every second of it, especially when she got to serve those vegetables to us for dinner. The kids were pretty interested too and that just made it even better. It was a huge success and she plans on expanding the operation next year!
Melissa is also one of the smartest and most organized people I know, which helps her to be a great wife and mother while juggling her other interests. More than anything, she enjoys spending time with her family. Up to this point she has worked full time and enjoyed a successful career in Finance. Although this has been a very rewarding part of her life, she would like nothing more than to take on the role of stay at home mom and we’re working hard so she can do exactly that when the next addition to our family joins us. Melissa treasures her time with her sisters and their children – and so do Axel and Anastasia. Their time together is usually full of story-telling, jumping rope, skateboarding (or trying to in Melissa’s case) and going to the beach and the rides on the boardwalk in her hometown in New Jersey.
About Eric By Melissa
Eric is the most capable man I know and I’m proud to be his wife. He has achieved so much, never ceases to amaze me and I’m convinced there is nothing he can’t do. He is a former officer in U.S. Marines Corps Special Operations, has climbed Mt. Everest, completed numerous Ironman triathlons and started and now runs a leadership development company that was immediately successful and positively impacts so many people. He is the hardest working man I’ve ever seen in all aspects of his, and our, life. He is smart, strong, caring, generous and kind. The thing I love most about Eric is his strength. I am a worrier by nature, but when we face life’s challenges, I know everything will be okay because he is by my side. Eric is an amazing father. I always knew he’d be a good dad, but he surpassed my every expectation. Eric is a very hands-on dad with both of our children. He is like the Pied Piper – children flock to him and he enjoys every moment of playing with our kids and their friends. When Axel started school, the kids would yell “Axel’s Dad is here!” when he walked in the room. I can’t think of a better male role model for a child and Axel and Anastasia are proof of that. Eric is warm, openly affectionate and loving, while at the same time steadfast about teaching Axel, Anastasia and our future child how to be good people. Axel was shaking hands by the time he was two and already knows ladies go first.
Being outside and being with his family makes Eric the most happy. After climbing five of tallest peaks on the seven continents, finishing eight Ironman Triathlons and adventure racing around the world, his priority now is spending time with his family. There is nothing he enjoys more than that. Eric likes staying fit and keeping busy. He regularly swims, runs or lift weights and also enjoys keeping up with the seasonal work on our property trying to ensure a well landscaped lawn in warmer months and cutting trees for firewood during the winter. Sharing a life and family with Eric is fun and secure and I enjoy every day with him.
What We Hope To Offer a Child
We both work very hard and feel this is an important thing to model for our children. We value a strong work ethic. Our careers, along with careful saving, have afforded us the financial resources to ensure Axel, Anastasia and their future sibling have the experiences and education needed to help them be successful. We believe in supporting whatever their life passion may be, and put an utmost importance on education. Melissa has enjoyed her successful career up to this point, but is ready and excited to be a stay at home mom. Both of us love being parents and are committed to spending as much time as possible with our children.
We believe children should have fun and be happy and carefree, but also well-mannered and respectful. Our next child, along with Axel and Anastasia, will be raised in a warm, loving, fun and exciting home surrounded by family and friends who love him/her.
Thoughts On Adoption
Words can’t express our gratitude and respect for you and this selfless decision you’ve made to consider adoption. Your choice is a gift for this baby and we promise to provide them with a loving home and a wonderful life. We intend to openly communicate with him/her and answer any questions he/she may have about their adoption on an age appropriate basis. They will be told from the start about the special way they came into our lives. Making sure they know their life started with a loving and selfless woman who wanted the best for them is very important to us. Depending on your comfort level, we’d love to share pictures, letters and updates with you. It’s our hope that you always feel secure about your decision and know how happy and well cared for your child is.
Thank you again for taking this time to get to know us. If you would like to learn more about us or to arrange an initial phone call, please don’t hesitate to reach out anytime.